Faking it is a massive tool in a woman’s sexual armour. But it’s one I personally don’t use, and I don’t think women should reach for.
When I was younger, I faked it all the time. For one, I hadn’t mastered the art of making myself come without the aid of a vibrator until I was in my early twenties. So if I hadn’t worked out how to get myself off, then how the hell was some adolescent youth meant to? So it didn’t seem fair that all their hard work was met with nothing, and in all honesty, I didn’t know if I was capable of a man ever making me orgasm, so it just seem the norm for me to fake it.
As I got older (and finally understood what it took to make me climax), I wanted to stop faking it. This came as a bit of a blow to my partner. I obviously stopped coming on command, which was a bit of a kick in the teeth, and had to show him what worked for me. Bingo, no need to fake it anymore!
Ultimately though, this is why I don’t believe faking it is the way to go. In the long run, you’ll get a lot more of the good stuff by showing your partner how you like it, and frankly, why should you let them think they are getting you off when they’re not? If they’re aimlessly prodding at your vulva with their pinkie finger and that’s never going to do a thing for you, then they’ll learn it’s not doing anything and hopefully not repeat it. The opposite then is true, when they do rock your world, they’ll know exactly what works for you. Of course sex shouldn’t be mechanical, and hopefully this won’t become the one move to “finish you off”, but equally, some women find it really hard to come, and once they’ve got one method under their belt it’s a starting ground to play around with.