Anal sex seems to have become more popular, no doubt due to its ever more present appearance in porn, but is it for you? I hadn’t tried it until last year as my ex wasn’t into the idea. I was massively apprehensive about anything butt related the first time, but I trusted the guy I was with and wanted to see if it was worth the fuss. There were a few things I wish I had known beforehand though, so if you’re thinking of trying anal sex and want to know a little more detail, then this post is for you.
Ease in gently
Anal sex is not something you dive straight into. You need to build up to it, especially the first few times. Have your partner start with a lubricated finger, easing this in and out so you get used to the sensation.
Once you’re happy to move on to something larger (be it a toy or their penis), make sure you have plenty of lube. Apply this liberally, and gently ease the end in, when it’s pulled out again add more lube. Keep going in this respect until you’re comfortable to take the full length, or to the point you wish.
Make sure your partner is gentle. If they lie on their back and you lower yourself onto them you’ll ensure you have full control, though this can be a little tiring on your legs.
What it feels like?
In all honesty, it does feel like you might be about to poo, but fear not, you won’t! The motion of having something pulled out of your ass is of course exactly the same as going to the loo, so it naturally does feel like that. Once you get past it (give it a few times), you forget about this completely, and it just feels like a different kind of sex.
Worried about mess?
This is only natural. If you suspect you need the loo, avoid anal until you’ve emptied your bowels. Let’s be frank, we all know what goes on there, but by the time you’ve lubed everything up, the chances of any mess are very slim. Just have a good wash before hand, and if you’re so inclined you can buy douches to flush you out.
Never put anything that’s been in your (or someone else’s) anus straight into your vagina as you can easily get an infection by doing so. Wash in between, or change the condom.
Keep toys clean by using toy cleaner after use or you could put a condom over them if they’re the right size.
Does it hurt?
A little the first time, but if you follow the above advise this should alleviate too much discomfort.
What to expect afterwards?
A little talked about thing is the aftermath of anal…. Because of all the lubrication (and possible semen if you’re having unprotected sex) that’s been forced up your bum, be aware that this does need to come out again. Stools might be a little looser for the next 12 hours after anal, and don’t trust a fart (you might blow some lube bubbles!)
Ultimately anal sex can be amazing; it allows you the opportunity for double penetration with a toy (or another guy), which can add a new edge to sex and allow for extremely powerful orgasms. Men’s G spots are located approximately 2 inches inside their anus; so anal play for men can be a massive buzz.